Attraction is not a choice

Here’s a rule I want you guys out there to remember: Don’t be afraid to scare away the women you don’t want.

Sounds kind of obvious, but you’d be amazed how many guys are trying to create the profile that wins them all. Or they go into this with the idea that they can avoid offending anyone.

Life is hard. Wear a cup. Read more…

One question I’m asked quite a bit is how to find dating advice for men that is both practical and useful. There’s a lot of stuff out there, and if you’re not careful, you could get pulled into a bad philosophy.

In fact, let’s talk about that for a moment. What is your philosophy toward dating and dating advice? For men that are out there in the singles world today, I find that very few are looking to be a “pickup artist,” and most are looking for a single, high-quality partner.

That’s right. Most guys are not out to just “get laid fast.” They want to meet an attractive woman with the qualities that they feel they can stick with. Read more…

Most guys would approach women more (and have more success in dating) if they felt more comfortable with talking to women. It can feel intimidating to talk to a person you hardly know, while deep in the back of your head you’re wondering how to ask her out, does she like you, will she ever want to sleep with you, etc. Sometimes the amount of things you wonder about women can be so overwhelming that it’s difficult to initiate a conversation.

The first step is to SLOW DOWN. You only need to worry about one thing at a time. The first thing you want to do is to make sure you’re totally relaxed for any conversation. If you talk too excitedly, you’ll come across as nervous. Slow your speech down so that you don’t hurry your words. If you appear relaxed and in control, you’ll come across with confidence, and she will find you more attractive.

Next, you should find a topic that meets the following criteria: Read more…

Being Single is Just as Good

BEING SINGLE IS JUST AS GOOD!

Don’t be in such a hurry to get into a relationship, guys. I just read an article on CNN.com, relating a survey that tracked 24,000 people and showed that marriage does NOT make you more happy. (Gee, we needed a survey for this?)
Not that marriage can’t be fulfilling, but it is not a cure-all to your unhappiness.
You have to be happy FIRST.

This survey also showed that people who were more satisfied with their lives before they were married were more likely to stay married longer.
Hmm.
Gosh, that’s an incredible discovery. Read more…

The Point System – Attitude and Posture Count!

The most important part of dating for men is maintaining a good attitude, and a correct attitude. It’s one thing to not be bitter when you face rejection and your fears with women, but it’s another to make sure that you’re keeping up your posture.

In short, your posture is your overall status level with a woman. Your posture can range from total supplicating wimp on the left end of the scale, and hardcore self-interested jerk on the far right. You are shooting for something a bit over to the right of center when you first start dating a gal, and you ease off until you are at a good equilibrium somewhere near the middle. Read more…

How to Use a Woman’s Frustration Energy to Your Advantage

Some of you may be familiar with some Eastern school of thought on how energies are used in the human body. Chinese philosophies refer to it as Chi, and the energy itself can have both female and male (Yin and Yang) “flavors” to it. The way we use our energy is indicative of our personalities and personal inclinations. Whatever you choose to call it, I think we all agree that this energy is very real, even if we’re not sure how to channel it.

Now, don’t worry, I’m not going off on a mystical California carpet ride with you. I’m just trying to highlight a concept with you that relates to dating. Read more…

EVERY guy has a liability of some kind. Short. Bald. Chubby. Missing a tooth. Missing a leg. Whatever. You have to learn how to communicate your confidence THROUGH that liability, and at the same time not seem defensive, or like you’re carrying around issues.

Remember: Stephen Hawking, a man who is totally incapacitated by Lou Gehrig’s disease, got remarried a few years back. You can say, “Yeah, but he’s the most brilliant man alive. He’s got something going for him.” But c’mon… he’s totally paralyzed, and can’t even talk without his computer chair.

I tell you that ANY man can get a woman if he finds that brilliant part of himself, builds on it, and sells it hard. Read more…

Tease-To-Please

Tease-To-Please In ACTION!

I was at the bus stop a couple weeks ago, and I saw a gal there who I had seen once before. She was young, attractive, blonde. I immediately saw some potential for conversation, so I just started talking to her as if I already knew her from somewhere else.

(You want her to feel as comfortable with you as quickly as possible. The best way to do this is ASSUME it at the start.)

“It’s nice to see someone at this stop,” I said. “There’s never anyone here to talk to. Are you friendly…?” Read more…

How to Approach Women - Singles Bars and Dance Clubs

How to Approach Women – Part Three of Five: Situations – Singles Bars and Dance Clubs

Men just need more confidence in their ability to meet women. This article gives you some of the root strategies in getting to meet women in different circumstances, continued from Parts One and Two. The approaches will break down each situation into the essential ingredients. This isn’t your usual “be confident and just ask her” advice. I’m going to give you specific goals, opportunities, dangers, approaches, and analytical details of each situation.

Consider this an intensive class in meeting women and getting to the first – and most critical – step in the dating game.

Let’s continue… Read more…

How To Approach Women

How to Approach Women – Part Five of Five: Introducing Yourself – Subjects to Discuss and Avoid

Men just need more confidence in their ability to meet women. This article gives you some of the root strategies in getting to meet women in different circumstances, continued from the prior Four Parts. The approaches will break down each situation into the essential ingredients. This isn’t your usual “be confident and just ask her” advice. I’m going to give you specific goals, opportunities, dangers, approaches, and analytical details of each situation.

Consider this an intensive class in meeting women and getting to the first – and most critical – step in the dating game.

Let’s continue… Read more…